Happy New Year!
It’s a brand new year, and I am so glad you are still here! The New Year is quickly becoming one of my favorite holidays because I love reflecting and reminders. Over the years, all of my resolutions have had a hand in building the person that I am, and I’m so proud of that. Most New Year resolutions are centered on the physical or mental being, but I’m interested in stronger sexual health. Your sexual health includes facets of your mental and physical health. Here are the best 10 tips to improve your sexual health this year.
Get Those Checkups
Almost everything can be treated and possibly cured if caught early enough. Your yearly checkups are an essential part of your sexual health, especially as you age. You have a better chance of using those sexual organs for a long time if you care for them now. Black men and women have higher instances of death for prostate, breast, and cervical cancer. Early detection is the best weapon in the fight to maintain your sexual health, so make that appointment!
Take Vitamin D
Most Americans get less than the daily recommended dosage of this vital nutrient. Vitamin D aids in many processes, and a deficiency can wreak havoc on the body and mind. Depression, extreme fatigue, and irritability are symptoms of low vitamin D. Most vitamin D is converted from sun rays, which means be especially careful in winter.
Move Your Body
We used to think “move it or lose it” was funny. Look at us now…losing it. Keeping the body in motion increases the endorphins that make you feel happy (and sexy). Try to take your body through its complete range of motion once or twice a day.
Heal Your Inner Voice
The criticisms we feel come from somewhere in us. A voice that tells us we aren’t good enough, we can do better, and so forth. That voice is someone. Somewhere in our development, we were shaped to treat ourselves like someone else treated us. Heal that inner voice to be kind to yourself and others.
Being adventurous is sexy! Take yourself out to do fun things. You don’t have to wait to be “taken” anywhere. Sitting inside doing nothing and expecting to be happy is nuts. Being able to be confident and comfortable with yourself is a learned behavior. Get to learning.
Do Something Spicy
There are plenty of ways to add a little heat to the bedroom. Make a commitment to try something new. You don’t have to start an Only Fans, but you could wear something risqué or do a nude photoshoot. Doing something out of your comfort zone is exhilarating and is even better when shared with a partner.
If you are having casual sex, you must brush up on consent. Anything other than an enthusiastic yes is a no. Making physical connections is hard; forcing those connections doesn’t help. Genuine physical connections feel magical. Don’t deprive yourself of that magic by acting like Prince in Under the Cherry Moon.
Learn Your Body
Many people experience touch deprivation or skin hunger. Children spend the whole first of their lives physically clinging to their parents. Touch means so much to the development of humans that the absence of touch during that crucial stage can cause irreparable damage. As adults, we get touched less and less until we only have four designated spaces for pleasure. Use the new year to explore non-sexual touch on yourself. You may find out some exciting things about what you like.
Your sexual health issues could be spawned from trauma. If you have traumatic memories surrounding sex, those memories could affect your sexual health. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. A therapist can teach you to navigate those emotions and help you heal. Many therapists today are more sex-positive and open to different experiences, creating inclusive spaces for varying relationship types.
What do you want? What kind of life do you truly want to lead? Being authentic means finding your happy place and inviting everyone to come over. When you are honest with who you are, you send out vibes to align with others seeking those specific vibes. Don’t waste any more time conforming yourself to norms. Weird is normal, lol. If everyone were honest, everyone would be weird.
I wish for this year to be your greatest sexual revolution yet, and then I wish you one more!
Vitamin D: Fact Sheet for Health Professionals (2023) https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/VitaminD-HealthProfessional
Racial disparities in Black men with prostate cancer: A literature review. (2023) https://acsjournals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/cncr.34433